Thursday, December 29, 2005

I realize - I have no friends....

Now that motherhood is approaching, I find that I have no friends that are local. What do I mean – well during high school and college, I had a plethora of friends. In college, I could be out with friends any given night. When I moved to grad school, that shifted some – but I still was a pretty busy person. Now, when I moved out here and got married – that is when things started to change and I am not sure why.

I think in the beginning I was just trying to get used to being completely away from all my family and friends. Then I was getting used to being a wife. I spent most of my time with my husband and his parents. As I moved into a new job, many of the people were older and I did not have a lot in common. I did meet someone who I consider to be one of my best friends, but that is about it – 5 yrs at one company and only 1 real “friend.”

At the next job, I pretty much was alone in my department – so no friends there. At the next job, things picked up a bit and I stay in touch with 2 people from that job, since I was only there 4 months- I find that pretty good. At the current job, I don’t see any real possibility of making a “connection”

I know MIL wants to do a shower – but I am thinking – who the heck would I invite – I really have no friends in the area. How sad will it be to sit around with my MIL and like 2 other people – that is so pathetic. I am still trying to figure out what happened to me – when I become anti-social. Don’t get me wrong, I am always busy – I usually just hang out with DH or his family. Hey I like my MIL and FIL – sue me. I was very lucky in that department.

I am so glad that a DH’s friend may be moving back to that area and he brings his wife, Heather. Heather and I did not get too much time to bond while they were here, but we have been keeping in touch – so I am hopeful we can move our friendship to another level – one where we hang out W/O the husbands..hahaha!

What happened to me is all I want to know….


Heather said...

I often wonder the same thing about myself. I use to be very outgoing and very social. When Fred was a cop we were always doing something with his squad. It was like a family that included spouses & kids. Now I have to work on it for the sake of my kids. It at least makes me feel good that Zoe has a handful of friends that she knows by name. I joined the moms club here which helped me a lot, but I still have to fight the anti-social urge.

It did seem that as soon as the four of us started hanging out we moved to California. Now a continent and ocean away, I feel we are developing a true friendship. Isn't the power of the internet amazing! Now if we could just nail the whole moving of this island and back east thing down, LOL!

Code Monkey Master said...

I wouldnt wish most of my friends on anyone...