Thursday, December 29, 2005

I realize - I have no friends....

Now that motherhood is approaching, I find that I have no friends that are local. What do I mean – well during high school and college, I had a plethora of friends. In college, I could be out with friends any given night. When I moved to grad school, that shifted some – but I still was a pretty busy person. Now, when I moved out here and got married – that is when things started to change and I am not sure why.

I think in the beginning I was just trying to get used to being completely away from all my family and friends. Then I was getting used to being a wife. I spent most of my time with my husband and his parents. As I moved into a new job, many of the people were older and I did not have a lot in common. I did meet someone who I consider to be one of my best friends, but that is about it – 5 yrs at one company and only 1 real “friend.”

At the next job, I pretty much was alone in my department – so no friends there. At the next job, things picked up a bit and I stay in touch with 2 people from that job, since I was only there 4 months- I find that pretty good. At the current job, I don’t see any real possibility of making a “connection”

I know MIL wants to do a shower – but I am thinking – who the heck would I invite – I really have no friends in the area. How sad will it be to sit around with my MIL and like 2 other people – that is so pathetic. I am still trying to figure out what happened to me – when I become anti-social. Don’t get me wrong, I am always busy – I usually just hang out with DH or his family. Hey I like my MIL and FIL – sue me. I was very lucky in that department.

I am so glad that a DH’s friend may be moving back to that area and he brings his wife, Heather. Heather and I did not get too much time to bond while they were here, but we have been keeping in touch – so I am hopeful we can move our friendship to another level – one where we hang out W/O the husbands..hahaha!

What happened to me is all I want to know….

2 comments:

Heather said...

I often wonder the same thing about myself. I use to be very outgoing and very social. When Fred was a cop we were always doing something with his squad. It was like a family that included spouses & kids. Now I have to work on it for the sake of my kids. It at least makes me feel good that Zoe has a handful of friends that she knows by name. I joined the moms club here which helped me a lot, but I still have to fight the anti-social urge.

It did seem that as soon as the four of us started hanging out we moved to California. Now a continent and ocean away, I feel we are developing a true friendship. Isn't the power of the internet amazing! Now if we could just nail the whole moving of this island and back east thing down, LOL!

Chimpanzee Rage said...

I wouldnt wish most of my friends on anyone...